Squirting is banned?

Squirting is banned?

Female EjaculationIt has taken me over a week to regain enough composure to address the recent banning of certain acts in UK created pornography. I understand that it will have little to no effect on me directly but it affects all WOMEN. These acts seem to be an attempt to minimised women in roles of power! Women are powerful but now our recorded representations of power are being attacked. Yes, I see it as an attack. I will write more about that shortly but I would like to specifically address female ejaculation being banned! Squirting as a woman is not acceptable in UK porn now but a man or even several men can cum on my face. Now where the fuck is the common sense here?

Some personal perspective. Since this is a personal discussion and I am a pretty open woman, let’s talk about my own personal history with squirting. This is meant as a window into my personal life and do NOT objectify my experience by turning it overly sexual. The context is merely to show you my own struggles and trials with acceptance and self worth.

9My first squirting orgasm occurred in my youth, rather early in my sexual experiences. Very early. So early that I will not share the age but you get the idea. This particular man with whom I will enjoying a good old fashioned moment of fingering (a delightfully underutilized activity) and as I approached my moment of orgasm, I squirted. The pleasure of the moment was just so amazing. I still remember that moment of complete pleasure waving over me. The moment lasted less than a second, at which point my almost surreal pleasure was shaken stolen from me but shrieks of pure laughter. I get it, he was young, I was young. This was a first experience for us both and since squirting is not necessarily something you would find in your standard sex act adolescent handbook, the response was, for him, to react like it was a comedy. I was hurt. I spent a very large amount of time trying not to orgasm unless I was by myself because of that reaction. I got over it and am aware that it was merely a childish response to a very grown woman physical response.

Squirting is a very natural act. It should be celebrated and enjoyed by all parties involved. Since my youthful experiences, I have embraced and even rejoiced in the glory of orgasming so hard that my body send forth ejaculate! It is a beautiful thing. My lovers enjoy it so much, I cannot even begin to give it words. I have come a long way in accepting my body’s fluids and responses to stimuli. When I first read about the UK ban, those first thoughts, that laughter from my youth rang in my ears. Feelings of shame, embarrassment and just not understanding all came flooding back (pun totally intended). Why is it that male ejaculate, something I associate with both violence and degradation can be considered acceptable but its feminine counterpart, its absolute representation of female pleasure be considered so vile that laws must be made about it? How can a physical representation of my feminine pleasure be considered obscene?

This is a feminist issue. This is women being told to what extent we can enjoy our pleasure. No one has a right to take that away! If a man can cum on my face, I can damn well cum on yours.

À bientôt,

Ambre Jade

4 thoughts on “Squirting is banned?

  1. I’m conflicted on this issue. On the one hand I do think that UK content producers should be bound by regulation, and I do think there are “protection” issues to ensure those not equipped to deal with our kinks aren’t inadvertently exposed to them. On the other, the “list” of activities UK producers can’t make available by Video on Demand is archaic at best, harmful at worst.

    Given the breadth of scope of this legislation I wouldn’t label it as “just” a feminist issue. It strikes at the core of sexuality, something we’ve been struggling with for decades. Amongst the many worries I have is that following a ban on UK producers creating this content will come UK citizens viewing it. If a feminist angle helps spark the debate that’s great, just as long as we don’t lose sight of the bigger picture.

    1. When I use feminism, I mean it in the old school version of what it once was, in that it affects everyone and all should be viewed with equal emphasis. I do agree that it is not just a feminist issue. This is something that will undoubtedly affect future generations as well as increase the amount of shame and embarrassment felt by those of us who do not fall into what “The Man” thinks we should enjoy!
      I cannot claim to completely understand UK law or regulation but when someone out there is limiting the amount of pleasure I woman is allowed to show on video, the whole thing brings vomit to my mouth!
      I can see where some legislation should be implemented. There should be some limits on what can and cannot be filmed. My belief is always surrounding consent. Some kinks, and fantasies do not always involve consent and I agree that those should be subjected to laws, regulation, legislation whichever bracket term describes them.
      This recent list vibes of an attack on Femdom pornography and an assault on women in powerful position within media.

  2. I think you are spot-on; this is a feminist issue. Feminism is a human rights issue. Many people outside of any form of kink-community objectively identify this screwed up law as a having a very anti-female bias. The article you referenced from the Guardian noticed how the majority of the banned subjects are femdom related. If you notice, you’re a prude if you don’t buy into the “50 shades of douche,” male dominated porn. I don’t see anyone hiding the kids until you see a woman (clothed or not) in the power position. It seems clear that women were the primary target of this law. What makes this insidious is that this isn’t a single incident; it’s part of a cumulative problem.

    This is law on its own is still relatively minor when you compare it to all the hard work in the US to limit the rights to women professionally, and in regards to reproductive freedom. This is just what’s happening from a legal standpoint; culturally it’s perhaps worse. As horrifying as rape is by itself, pray it doesn’t happen in the US. There is such a disgusting backlash against victims here. Rolling Stone fucks up its own expose and it takes away from the real issue that it’s unsafe for a woman to go to college. Now so many people are putting the blame on the victims.

    One of my female friends said: “Men don’t protect women anymore.” What’s sad is that seems more true often than it should. It’s great that women are taking initiative and being making strides in becoming more independent. It’s sad that in so many cases they have to do it because there is no one else on their side. I don’t identify as a female (and a US citizen) but this affects me directly. An injustice anywhere is an injustice everywhere.

  3. We could not agree more. It is most myogynisitc and disrespectful to women to make natural expression of their pleasure taboo to show on film. How absolutely stupid!

    My wife and I believe that men should show respect and reverence of a woman’s body. In the context of male ejaculation of semen, my wife and I strongly feel that a man ejaculating on a woman’s face – is dreadfully disrespectful. If depiction of any act should be banned, this is one that should. Such an act has no place in a relationship that is committed to elevating the role of the woman and promoting her husband’s respect for her.

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